Why We’re Here
On December 10, 2001 we lost twin sons at eight and a half months into the pregnancy.
Drew and Cole were victims of acute twin to twin transfusion syndrome. This is a condition when the babies share the placenta and one gets too much blood and the other not enough. Simply, one has a heart attack and one becomes anemic.
Typically, when this happens it develops over 2-3 weeks and the Doctors can see a change in body weight, fluid around them, and other critical vital signs and they can intervene and save one or both of the babies. Unfortunately for us, that’s where the ‘acute’ part comes in.
The onset was so rapid that after a healthy ultrasound on a Monday, by the following Friday we knew ‘something was wrong’.At 3:12 in the morning at Miami Valley hospital the Doctors pronounced them both dead. After a long, emotional and spiritual road to recovery, we realized that God had a plan and we accepted it. It has manifested itself in many ways in our lives, our friends’ lives, and the lives of our children.
Everyone experiences pain of loss in some manner. Whether it is the pain of the loss of a loved one or any other kind of pain we suffer, we effectively have two choices. We can let the pain define us, or we can use the pain to define ourselves. The pain itself never goes away, nor should it. We simply find ways to live with it and use it either to our advantage, or to the advantage of others.
